It’s finally happening to me. I am approaching the over 25 mark when a women starts to think a little about her age. Yea, yea I realize that I am still a very young women but you have to admit up until around 25 you really don’t think about your age much except when you turn 16 because you can drive, 18 because your legal, or 21 because you can drink. However, once you pass 25 you think wow, I guess now is when we step into “big girl world”. If you haven’t already you would start thinking about marriage, children, and white picket fences with little dogs inside.
Now for whatever reason some people seem to think that once a woman hits 30 she is approaching the gray zone and that the chances of her finding a partner and getting married are sliming down. Furthermore, those same opinions would go on to say that a woman in her 40′s is approaching the black zone in which case, marriage is pretty unlikely. Well my friends, at the tender age of 26 and three years from the gray zone I have to beg to differ.
I’d like to reference and article by Daniel Schorn from CBS News.com. He takes us through the story of a 1986 article posted by New Week Magazine. The article stated that a professional women only had a 20 percent chance of getting married after age 30 and for women over 40 a sad 2.6 percent chance! Lisa Miller, the senior editor of News Week Magazine later stated in 2006 (year the CBS article was written) that even for a woman over 40, the chance of marriage is actually closer to 40 percent. So the numbers were a bit off target in the 80′s.
Ok ladies, let’s all put down our pitch forks and breathe a sigh of relief. Yes, there is love after 30 and 40 and even 50 and 60 as far as I’m concerned. So be not discontent! It would be better to wait and fall into a meaningful worthwhile relationship in God’s time instead of picking any old Tom, Dick, or Harry just to soothe the fear of being single. After all the more important issue is your own inner happiness and contentment, which for many woman does not require a partner to obtain.
article referenced from CBS for your reading pleasure: http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/05/31/earlyshow/main1671139.shtml?tag=contentMain;contentBody
I am 42 years old and never married. My prayer is that I will not live and die single. Even though statistics say (and even my sister said it just yesterday)that I am in the “highly unlikely to get married group”, I’m believing God to answer my prayer. So, to anyone who is concerned: 25, 30, 40+, don’t worry. Just pray and believe.
Comment by B. Williams — August 18, 2009 @ 12:13 am
And you won’t (die single)! We all know these things happen in God’s time. I could be the first to talk about the pitfalls of pre-maturely marrying when it’s not in God’s time. Mr. Right will come.
Comment by notabridesmaid — August 18, 2009 @ 4:29 pm